How Do I Succeed In School? Part 4 – Be Consistent

Be consistent. I’ve always believed that consistency is one of the greatest attributes of success. During my first week of school, this belief was confirmed to me more than ever. Let me explain…

The experiences one faces at school are very dramatically inconsistent from day to day. Some days are great, some days are horrible, and most days are forgettable and average. You don’t have homework, your classes were interesting, and you have plans to go out with your friends after school – great day. Your partner broke-up with you, you failed your test, and your shift at work got cancelled – horrible day. You arrived to school on time, completed most of your work in class, and enjoyed volleyball practice – average day.

The key is to speak and act the same to others, no matter what type of day you are having. This is was separates the average student from the excellent student.

It may seem odd to say, but I realized this week, that as a teacher, there are actually some students that I am afraid of. I don’t necessarily mean “afraid” in the literal sense, but I am definitely unsure if I want to approach them sometimes. Why? Because of their inconsistency. Just like a rollercoaster, forever moving up and down – to new heights and lows, and everything in the middle – their words and actions also make dramatic shifts depending where life’s path is taking them on any given day. Basically, their feelings are their primary source for how they communicate with others.

 

What Type of Ship Are You?

The reason many people are inconsistent with their actions and behaviour is because they allow storms to get inside of them, and destroy their peace.

A ship can be cruising in the middle of the ocean, with water surrounding it for miles in all directions. It will be fine, serving its purpose, until a storm blows in its direction and begins to allow water on the inside. Because of the water, the ship will eventually sink once it can’t handle the weight. It will be destroyed.

Consistent people, however, don’t allow water to get on the inside. They have  an incredibly strong foundation that will not allow a storm to have any substantial impact. The wind can blow from all directions, and be surrounded by violent waves crashing all around them, but the consistent person will stay strong. Water has no way of filling the inside.

This simple analogy is the same for life. Those that are able to keep problems on the outside will be happier, stronger, and more successful. Just like the ship, the ACTIONS of consistent people will remain unaffected – they will remain strong, steadily cruising the same course as they were before the storm.

Those that allow problems to attack and destroy their inside, will eventually sink once the weight of the water becomes too great. The symptoms of allowing too much water on the inside manifest themselves in anger, depression, isolation, low resiliency, and quitting. Unfortunately, in a sea of ships at school, I have witnessed far too many sinking. When too many ships are sinking at the same time, there aren’t enough lifeboats to save them all.

Consistency and Success at School

It’s actually quite simple to see why consistent people are much more successful than those who aren’t…

  • Inconsistent people daydream in class when the lecture is boring. Consistent people take notes.
  • Inconsistent people escalate problems by screaming at their friends when they are upset. Consistent people speak calmly and resolve issues.
  • Inconsistent people are rude to others when they are upset. Consistent people earn trust and respect by controlling their feelings and always responding kindly.
  • Inconsistent people don’t study when they don’t feel like it. Consistent people study anyway.
  • Inconsistent people skip class when their friends influence them to do so. Consistent people attend class, ready to learn, leaving their friends in the hallway. It won’t take long for those same friends to stop asking you to skip, because your consistent refusals will train them to stay silent.

Aspiring to be Consistent is the Mindset of the 1%

Consistency is very difficult to achieve. Why? Because most people are inconsistent. Most people associate exclusively with inconsistent people, and most people allow their moods and feelings to dictate how they act. However, consistency requires the opposite: your thoughts, words, and actions need to be in control – then your feelings will comply A consistent person cannot be a slave to their feelings. It also really helps if you surround yourself with consistent people.

You are angry because your teacher went back on their word? Speak positively to him/her anyway. You’re upset because your friends cancelled on you, talk to them kindly anyway. You’re angry because you failed a test that you studied hard for? Speak softly to your teacher anyway. Accept responsibility.

When your thoughts, words, and actions are in control of your feelings, welcome to the 1% club, my friend. You are now consistent. You are now one of the most trustworthy people in your school. Probably in your community.

Conclusion

Get into the habit of reminding yourself to be consistent. I once had the word “consistent” as the wallpaper on my phone. When you wake up, remind yourself to be consistent. Post it in your locker. Write it on the back of your hand.  Get others to remind you. Do what you need to do to to be successful.

I challenge you to act differently this week. If you haven’t already done so, begin to chase consistency by taking control of your thoughts, words, and actions. Post it somewhere highly visible so you will be reminded of it often. Be that strong ship that stands out in a sea of mediocrity.

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